Caring is an innate part of who we are as humans, but caring too much can quickly turn something innocent into a nasty, toxic drain on your life. Here are a few things you should just stop caring about right now.
How Clean Your House Is
Should you care if your house is so dirty you’ve got insects and other pests taking up residence inside? Of course! Should you be worried if guests arrive to a dining room table filled with playdoh and homework, shoes strewn across the foyer, laundry spread across your couch, and a toilet that could use a minor scrub down? Not in the least.
Our homes are for living!
In today’s world, where we often lack the “village” of generations past, there simply isn’t always time to make sure the house is always tidy, toilet bowls always sparkling white, and piles of laundry neatly folded into drawers mere minutes after they’re dry. No one should be judged for putting their family before the housework, so measure your friends by that standard.
If they don’t understand, you probably don’t want that kind of negativity in your life, anyway.
What People Think of Your Marriage
I could care less what people think of me personally, but I spent a lot of time caring very deeply about what people think of my marriage. It was almost as if I equated the success of my marriage with my personal choices. I mean, I chose my spouse. I chose to build a life with him.
But that’s just not true. People grow and change just as relationships do, and there will certainly be periods of adjustment where you just feel out of sync. Marriage is about weathering the storms and celebrating the sun, so spend less time worrying about how other people view your marriage (whether that may be potentially good or not) and focus on what you can do to live the best life possible with the person you chose to walk this path with.
Opinions of Your Parenting
Every person who becomes a parent brings with them a unique set of skills and strengths, and every child born to that parent brings with them a unique set of traits. We’re all just doing the best we can with what we’ve got, so stop worrying so much about what other people think of your parenting choices.
Instead, ask yourself these questions:
- Are your children fed and cared for?
- Do you look after their health and well-being?
- Do you foster happiness and curiosity?
- Do you spend time with your children (when you’re able to outside of your responsibilities, of course)?
- Are your children loved?
- Do they know it?
If you can answer yes to those, it doesn’t really matter what anyone else thinks of your parenting. As long as your kids are happy and healthy, rest assured that you’re doing the best you can. Do what’s safe and right for your family.